Healing Habits: Restoring Authentic Self Expression

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If you have ever watched children at play, before the cookie-cutter world has tampered with their inherent wisdom by imprinting rules and proper behavior, it is obvious that they are emotive-expression machines. Expression — through love, play and creativity — comes naturally and flows through them like a vibrant river.

Social structure builds dams in this flow by saying: That behavior is not acceptable, time out, go to your room and come out when you can behave the way we want. Before you know it, the naturally expressive flow of the child is now regulated by a series of dams and cut off from the source.

Losing access to this flow creates problems in life, particularly when we encounter the inevitable experiences of trauma and loss. Our ability to feel, express and process are all upstream, housed in closed off reservoirs.

Expression is vital to healing and one way to create safety and comfort and permission around it is by engaging in a two-step process of Noticing. First, where do you hold back (emotions stuck in the reservoir) and second, where does your heart beat faster?

For years I said, “I could never do that,” both out loud and to myself. It was a stock answer to all kinds of possibilities that crossed my path — write a book, sing in front of an audience, take care of myself. Then I began to ask myself why I was saying that and where did the thought originate? All of these beliefs have origins in the substrate of our lives, it is a matter of excavation.

Become a Noticer: In order to heal, we must be willing to know. Knowing begins with noticing important moments, such as where you abandon yourself, where you turn away from yearnings or deny what is before you. These things show up as tension in the body. For me, it is nearly always a vibration in my lower belly. For you, it might be a drop in your vocal octave or a pit in the stomach. Notice, connect and report when this happens. In this way, you develop the necessary intimacy to interpret the subtlety of your body’s language. This is how we begin to access the reservoirs, open the dams and restore the flow.

Honor Your Desires: Your heart is the most powerful organ in the body. According to the Institute of Heartmath:

*The heart’s electrical field is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the electrical activity generated by the brain.

*The magnetic field produced by the heart is more than 5,000 times greater in strength than the field generated by the brain.

*The electromagnetic energy of the heart not only envelops every cell of the human body, but also extends out in all directions in the space around us.

It is worth cultivating a relationship to the melody of your heart that is essentially, beat by beat, creating a personalized energetic GPS. Pay heed to the moments when your heart beats faster, and ask with curiosity: What is the essence of this moment?

Cultivating a regular practice of healing habits is paramount to revitalizing the eco-system of body, mind and spirit. One step is finding our way upstream to unblock the dams and restore your naturally emotive and expressive flow.

Let me know if this practice is helpful to your healing journey. I would love to hear about it.

Sending love, truth and wisdom.



Who is Dianna Bonny?

Hi, my name is Dianna Bonny. It’s my mission to candidly share my journey with you. For me, it’s all about the healing: to create a radiant healing energy for others who have befallen a similar fate. Together, we can forge beautiful lives of belonging and connection. Thanks for joining me today! I look forward to hearing from you.

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