Holidays and Healing: The Magic of Tender & Fierce Curiosity

Did you experience magic this holiday season? That was the question I asked myself the day after Christmas and my inner self responded wholeheartedly with a resounding YES. I went looking for it in every corner of the days as they passed and was rewarded at every turn.

After the three year void of having not a shred of holiday spirit in me, I found a renewed sense of hope this year. Within that space, I gave myself permission to reinvent my vision of what the holidays could be in our redesigned family.

Perhaps the magic began the day after Thanksgiving when we went out to find a tree and I forsook my adamant attitude about having a Noble Fir and opened myself up to whatever tree made my kids happy. We found the perfect size Frazier fir for $34.99 that is standing vibrant and green in my living room at this very moment.

It might have been the perfect pajamas I found for the annual X-mas eve tradition. You can’t imagine the smile on my face when one of my son’s said, “Oh my god, it’s a onesie,” and then they all stripped down for a photo shoot. The PJ’s didn’t come off for a couple of days.

xmas pjs | Dianna Bonny Photography

Then there were the four pennies I found on my walk in separate places along a street on X-mas Eve morning. This made me smile. If you have read me for a while, you will know I have a penchant for penny finding and attach tremendous meaning to each one that crosses my path.

It may have been the fact that my father and brother were here, and after all the loss of the last three years, having us all together in one spot made things feel as though they are coming together again.

I remember someone saying to me on the first holiday that I was in for a “long journey,” emphasis on the l-o-n-g part. I didn’t like the way it was ominously said, as though a curse were being cast upon me. While time is an important element in healing, I have come to believe that we have more power in the process than we know.

If we are willing to open up to our experiences with a fierce and tender curiosity, we don’t have to carry the pain forever, rather it can be transformed and integrated into our lives. I truly believe our wounds were never meant to be left alone in the darkness of our mind — they need to be embraced with love and bathe in the light of our soul to heal.

My journey has been one of continuously opening my heart to whatever has been before me and I have examined each element with the fiercest tenderness I could muster. What I have learned about healing in this way is that pain seems to release its grip much sooner than when it is ignored or resisted.

My healing continues to evolve and I feel that this Christmas holiday season was a big turning point for me and my family. It was so refreshing to be on the lookout for goodness and present to every precious moment.

I am incredibly grateful to have the opportunity to share my experiences with you and I look forward to our continued journey together.

Wishing you love and joy throughout the coming year.

Sending peace and light your way,


Who is Dianna Bonny?

Hi, my name is Dianna Bonny. It’s my mission to candidly share my journey with you. For me, it’s all about the healing: to create a radiant healing energy for others who have befallen a similar fate. Together, we can forge beautiful lives of belonging and connection. Thanks for joining me today! I look forward to hearing from you.

  1 comment for “Holidays and Healing: The Magic of Tender & Fierce Curiosity

  1. December 30, 2013 at 8:14 am

    Loved the pajama picture. I’m glad that you experienced joy this Christmas. I am one that also believes in embracing our pain rather than resisting it. I had some waves of grief missing Steve. It was the first one my brother did not call to wish us a Merry Christmas. But I know each one will get better.

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