Dear Gorgeous Healing Soul:

You possess extraordinary innate healing capacities. I know this to be true because I have discovered it for myself during my zig-zag journey through loss over the last four years, as I shifted from a wounded being, curled up in a ball, to a human standing on her own, breathing deeply and welcoming the uncertainty that is now woven into my life.

Our losses break us wide open and shatter the external shell of who we thought we were into a million pieces. It is up to us to reconfigure those shards that now lay scattered around our feet. It is up to us to discover and accept the invitation to redefine ourselves, and our lives.

It is here in this moment, as we adjust to the nakedness of our vulnerability, that we get to decide if we are going to be more loyal to our past and our pain, or step into our possibilities.

This is not easy, but it is crucial to your future, particularly if you have the fragile emotional lives of children under your stewardship.

The reason I write about it is this: I attended a loss support group a few weeks after my life was intersected by suicide. I was seated next to a woman whose husband had taken his life seven years earlier and her bitterness and anger radiated out into the room like a space heater. What was even more remarkable was the robotic quality of her storytelling. It was rehearsed. It was deeply ingrained and it was her entire life. I found it both repelling and tragic to be in her presence.

There were others like her in the room and I left with the intention to never return because I was afraid I would end up like them.

I chose a different path. One that let me find myself amongst the ruins and release what was not serving my highest good. One that has taken me to both ends of the emotional spectrum, and on a roller coaster ride of highs and lows. In giving myself permission to heal, and willingly participating in the journey, I have effected a much brighter outcome for myself and my children.

The healing journey continues to show me that I am capable of far more than I previously believed and I believe this is true for you as well.

My question then, is this: Where are you being more loyal to your pain than your possibilities?

Sending love, truth and wisdom,

-db

Who is Dianna Bonny?

Hi, my name is Dianna Bonny. It’s my mission to candidly share my journey with you. For me, it’s all about the healing: to create a radiant healing energy for others who have befallen a similar fate. Together, we can forge beautiful lives of belonging and connection. Thanks for joining me today! I look forward to hearing from you.