Suicide Chat: Making the Topic of Suicide Less Taboo May 2, 2014 • 0 Comments “Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” Apple Inc. Radical change often begins with one new thought, doesn’t it? Maybe you have been trying to lose weight for years and then one day you catch a glimpse of yourself in a window that sparks an entirely different stream of thought and – viola – you effortlessly shed the pounds. Or, your marriage is falling apart and a divorced friend happens to mention that she wishes she had fought harder for hers, and been more accepting and less critical of her husband. It opens a window to your soul, where the truth hides about your intolerance and judgment regarding your spouse, and suddenly your relationship seems ripe with possibility. I love these life changing moments but it is difficult to identify why they hold more power than all the rest: the million times similar thoughts floated through your mind but sparked no meaningful shift. What happened that was different? The stars aligned? Mercury in retrograde? Or was it simply time because the extreme discomfort overflowed beyond your capacity to hold it any longer, so as your cup spilleth over, a new way of thinking seeped in. I think this is happening in one of the most feared areas of thought — suicide. Cracks are rupturing the foundation of this highly charged, deeply held taboo topic. I see it on both sides: prevention and healing those left behind. Maybe the nearly one million people a year dying as a result of suicide is just too big to ignore any longer. To me, suicide mimics the “butterfly effect.” If one butterfly can cause a hurricane on the other side of the world, imagine what happens when one person takes their life. The aftermath billows outward into the lives of children, siblings, spouses, parents and friends, leaving a wake of untold pain and a stigma that can activate unfortunate possibilities for the people left behind. With suicide, we face a mysterious and unpredictable entity. We have to be willing to recognize that something isn’t working and ask, How can I see this differently? Secrecy and silence only add fuel to the old paradigm. Here is my invitation to you: Be brave and generously share your story of loss. It creates permission for others to do the same. Then we heal. Then we create a safe space for our children to integrate their wounds and live a better life. Decide to be one of the thought leaders: a genius who dared to make a difference. Your story is a sacred offering that can help shatter the taboo and tip the scales toward healing. Sending love, -db Who is Dianna Bonny? Hi, my name is Dianna Bonny. It’s my mission to candidly share my journey with you. For me, it’s all about the healing: to create a radiant healing energy for others who have befallen a similar fate. Together, we can forge beautiful lives of belonging and connection. Thanks for joining me today! I look forward to hearing from you.