Tag Archive for suicide and blame

Thoughts on Google Alerts and Breaking the Cycle of Suffering

scapegoat quote | Dianna Bonny Photography

I discovered sometime ago that members of my husband’s family have a Google Alert on my name. I assume it is how they discovered and subsequently sabotaged the webinar I wrote about last week. I have to admit it is rather unsettling and eerie to think that they are watching my every Internet move. I use the Google Alert feature…

On Blaming Others: The Insidious Nature of Blame

unhealed | Dianna Bonny Photography

There are a lot of pieces to my story that I have not shared yet. Some things are in the book, others I am still working through and processing. It continues to amaze me how long it takes to make sense of the emotions and pain that go along with suicide. One aspect I have not spoken much about here…

Blame as Rejection: Strategies to Survive It

blame quote | Dianna Bonny Photography

Have you ever been blamed for something you didn’t do, and no amount of talking changed the other person’s mind or made a speck of difference? I experienced this as a child, which perhaps laid down the tracks for my extreme sensitivity to it in adult life. Being blamed for something I didn’t do would send me into a kind…

Dealing with Grief and Gracefully Disengaging from Blame

"I Blame You" note

I originally posted this a year ago but I recently read an article on the Huffington Post discussing the issue of blame and thought I would repost since it seems to be an ongoing problem. I have had some interesting and difficult conversations over the last two years. I thought I would share this one in particular, in case you…

Ashes, Ashes We All Fall Down

buddha statue | Dianna Bonny Photography

In the mental fog of the first few days after my husband’s suicide, when I was filling out forms and answering questions and learning that my life was not entirely how it appeared, I had this idea in my mind that I would send the ashes to his mother. In fact, I listed her as the destination on the transit…